My name is Tara Van Hest and I am a Licensed Associate Counselor. As a counselor my goal is to allow my clients to feel real genuine human connection which will enable them to be open and honest with themselves. We as humans thrive in an environment where we feel safe and can express ourselves. We all have a story, and although we cannot change the pages of the past, we have the choice to turn pages, create new chapters, and rewrite a future that is free from the bondage of our trials and tribulations.
I have a wide scope of practice because I also work in psychiatric emergency services in the hospital which includes counseling children adolescents and adults from all facets of life suffering from anxiety, depression, schizophrenia, addiction, trauma and more. I enjoy using Cognitive behavioral methods, strength-based approaches, and spiritual principles to meet my clients where they are. Healing comes in all forms and it usually starts with finding self-worth and significance.
When we learn to accept the things we cannot change and find the courage to change the things we can, we are able to process through some of the hardest moments we have faced in our lives. We can choose to replace our pain with purpose and achieve goals to becoming our best self. I am looking forward to meeting with you, building a relationship and embarking on this journey together!
"The past is a place of reference, not a place of residence." I work with those who have experienced significant childhood, adult and relational trauma. I also work with individuals dealing with grieving the loss of circumstances and relationships. These life changes can greatly affect us if not addressed. Through processing and personal integration we can translate our pain to purpose by changing our narratives from victims to survivors. Healing oftentimes includes forgiving others, ourselves, letting go of resentments and creating a new chapter filled with freedom from the bondage of our circumstances. There is hope in healing!
Communication and trust are the basis of healthy relationships. In order for our needs to be met we must develop the skills to be assertive communicators. When we are passive communicators, our needs often are repressed and not represented. When we are aggressive communicators, our needs often come out as harmful rather than helpful. When we are assertive, we are able to clearly and directly express ourselves, limiting the ability to harbor resentment and form unhealthy bonds. I work with individuals on expressing their wants and needs in a healthy way in order to form healthy ways of attaching within relationships.
"You did not cause it, you cannot cure it and you cannot change it." These are three statements to remember when loving someone who is addicted or engages in toxic behavior. I work closely with individuals who struggle with a spouse, child, family member or loved one who is addicted to drugs, alcohol or any other substance. Through 12 Step principles I help codependent and struggling individuals to accept the things they cannot change and have the courage to change what they can, which is themselves.
You either walk inside your story and own it, or your stand outside your story and hustle for your worthiness."
- Crisis Counseling
- Life Transitions
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
Kean University (2019)
Master of Arts in Counseling (MA)